Need help? Shoot me a text!

People Pleasing is f**king you up way more than you think.

In this episode, John Oakes explores the concept of people pleasing, revealing that it is often not about making others happy but a survival mechanism rooted in childhood. He discusses how this behavior can significantly affect mental health, weight loss goals, and overall wellbeing. Through the example of a character named Cindy, John illustrates the consequences of prioritizing others over oneself and offers steps to reclaim personal freedom and assertiveness. He also shares insights into the deep-rooted fears that drive people pleasing and provides guidance on how to begin breaking free from these patterns.

00:00 Introduction to People Pleasing
00:45 Personal Story and Mission
01:34 Understanding People Pleasing and Weight Struggles
04:22 The Case of Cindy: A People Pleaser's Life
14:43 Childhood Roots of People Pleasing
19:19 The Impact of People Pleasing in Adulthood
23:45 Understanding the Nature of Control and People Pleasing
24:17 Steps to Break Free from People Pleasing
27:06 Facing Your Fears and Setting Boundaries
29:45 The Importance of Self-Care and Personal Wellbeing
33:50 Accepting Your Reality and Needs
38:45 The Journey to Emotional Freedom
40:51 Conclusion and Coaching Information

Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth
Amazon US
UK
CA
AU

Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today

Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community

To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com

Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site

Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube

Need help? Shoot me a text!

In this episode, John tackles one of the greatest tragedies of unhealed trauma: the fact that it causes us to vehemently reject good things in life.

• Why, every day, millions of people actively reject opportunity, money, and caring relationships.
• How childhood trauma creates a false frame of reference that warps adult judgment.
• How this warped judgment causes good people to reject good things.
• Why people get scared when they near a genuine opportunity for change.
• Why we distract from the misery of our lives (and not just to avoid misery)
• How this phenomenon forms a negative feedback loop that traps us
• How we can slowly but surely free ourselves from this trap
• How we can expand the possibilities for our lives by identifying and dismantling this malformed aspect of the psyche.

Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth
Amazon US
UK
CA
AU

Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today

Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community

To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com

Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site

Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube

Need help? Shoot me a text!

Long term weight loss is a campaign, not a single battle. We'd love for the journey to be all success and rainbows, but it usually isn't. If your mental health issues have caused your weight problem, then chances are, they will flare up at some point, putting your progress in serious jeopardy.

Today, I'm going to share with you a way of living that helps me avoid weight regain even when I am doing poorly and going off the rails.

Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth
Amazon US
UK
CA
AU

Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today

Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community

To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com

Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site

Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube